Faire la bise in France

Faire la bise in France, or to give a kiss on the cheek, is a daily way French people greet each other. As an expat, this is an everyday challenge to know when and who to greet with a kiss, and how to do it! I will tell you the French insight on how to faire la bise.


Why do French people kiss on the cheek?

Faire la bise in France

You might wonder why French people kiss each other on the cheek and where this habit comes from.

Unfortunately, there doesn’t seem to be certainty on the origin of this custom among the researchers. One hypothesis is that it originates from the Roman Empire.

Faire la bise is not uniquely a French tradition, as it might be a common belief. Many other countries also kiss on the cheek, such as southern European countries, South America as a consequence of colonization from Southern European countries, Arabic countries or even Russia. However, the context and the social codes may vary from one country to another.

Wherever it comes from, this has a lot to do with the individual influence of one’s culture.

You may have noticed that your personal feeling of space may be different from that of other cultures.

Have you ever felt uncomfortable by the proximity of Faire la bise, or felt that someone was being too close or too distant to you when having a normal conversation?

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Each culture or even person has a different individual personal space (1), like a personal bubble. Northern European countries’ bubble is bigger than the southern European ones.

France, as well as most countries from the ex-Roman Empire, is a culture of proximity, of small bubbles.

Do you feel your culture is a small bubble one or a large bubble one?

If you often feel that your personal space is being invaded since you have arrived in France, you may come from a large bubble culture.

French people need touch and physical contact to feel acknowledged and greeting someone is the first step of acknowledgement.

Enough with the theory. I’m sure you want to understand how faire la bise works in everyday life!


How to faire la bise in France?


First dilemma: Do people start from the left side or the right side?


You want to make sure your bise doesn’t end up in kiss on the mouth!

Well, unfortunately, there is no set answer… It depends on the region (2) but also on the people! To be quite honest with you, this is also confusing for French people. I often get it wrong!

Faire la bise in France
Mathieu Avanzi –


I’m from Lyon, and as per this map, it is just at the junction of the pink (left cheek first) and the green (right cheek first), so it is a daily adaption.

The key is to go slowly and adapt to the other person.

Second dilemma: how many kisses?

If you have travelled in France, you may have been even more confused! You may have thought you got to know how to do it, but you found yourself again in an embarrassing situation because the other person wanted to kiss you on the cheek one more time!


Well, kisses can go from one kiss to … four kisses depending on the regions (2)!

How many kisses in France
Mathieu Avanzi

In Lyon, we kiss twice, however in Montpellier or Nîmes they kiss three times! A big part of my family is from Montpellier, so every time we meet it is a joke! We try to adapt depending on where we meet!

If you want to be prepared when travelling to a specific region, you can even visit the website, to know what to expect!

Faire la bise step-by-step

I have tried to detail each step, hopefully, this will help you, until you become a natural to faire la bise in France!

1. Approach the other person
If both people wear glasses, one of them should take them out. If a man kisses a woman, he will usually take them out. If two women are kissing, well, you need to work it out!

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2. Turn one cheek on a side and stick to it (check the map to verify which side) or wait for the other person to turn the cheek first.

3. Touch the other person’s cheek with your cheek. Do not kiss directly with your mouth on the other person’s cheek to say hello. We would do that to close friends and family members to give thanks.

4. Make the «smack » noise in the air

5. Directly distance back (do not stay long on the cheek)

Some people may put their hand on the other person shoulder when kissing. This is usually a sign of a warm welcoming or close friendship.




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Whom can you kiss?

The general rule is as follow, however, there are nuances to take into account.

Professional context: A handshake is preferred.

handshake or kiss at work


First, never kiss your boss!
Also, unless you became friends with your colleague (both men and women colleagues), a handshake is preferred, or sometimes just a « Bonjour ». The company culture or department culture will also have a lot of influence.



For example, in my previous company, the general tendency was to say Hello without handshake or kissing.

However, my boss, who was the HR director of a 4000 person company, was greeting everyone from the HR Department with a bise every single day! Which is contrary to the general rule I just stated… 95% of the people in the HR Department were women. I can tell you that we were all feeling very uncomfortable to kiss the boss every day! The two men were lucky, they just got a handshake!


Between women (outside a professional context)

The professional context can be extensive. For example, if you are house hunting and you meet the real estate agent, you would always handshake with him or her, unless you know each other.

Outside the professional context, women mainly kiss each other. It could feel awkward to a French woman to be given a handshake by another woman in a casual context.

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Between men (outside a professional context)

30 years ago, a French man didn’t kiss another one.
Nowadays, it is common to see men se faire la bise (kiss each other on the cheek).

Men kiss each other only if they are close friends or family members. As a male expat, it is fine to decide not to kiss other men. However, some close friend may kiss you unexpectedly. It is ok to say in a nice and friendly way that you prefer to give a handshake.

However, the French teenagers males wouldn’t kiss each other. I guess it takes some male self-confidence to kiss another one. How would I know?

An everyday life example


You meet two friends (one man and one woman), they are with two other people (again, one man and one woman) that you have never seen:



• You are a man:

o You will kiss your female friend
o You can either kiss or shake hands with your guy friend
o You will give a handshake to the man you don’t know
o You will kiss the woman you don’t know

• You are a woman:

o You will kiss everyone.

One trick for you, if you have mastered the use of VOUS and TU (it will be detailed in another post), you can associate:

TU with Faire la bise.
VOUS with a handshake.


Will the Coronavirus outbreak end the habit of Faire la bise?

We have seen that cultural kissing habits have evolved in the past decades regarding men kissing on the cheeks.
The current pandemic restrictions require us to stay away from one another. It gives some relief to large bubble culture people but also frustrates the French somehow…

It seems that the cheek kissing habit almost disappeared in France during the 14th-century black plague pandemic…Will the coronavirus outbreak slowly lead to a kiss on the cheek disappearance if the pandemic lasts? I hope not!

Tell me what you think in the below comment section.

To wrap up, the kissing on the cheek rules are also confusing for the French sometimes, so it is all about adapting to the other person and going slowly.
Paul Taylor, a British comedian living in Paris illustrates the Bise customs in a hilarious way! Check it out!

If you have liked this article, share it with your friends. Stay tuned for more insider tips!


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(1) Understanding cultural differences – Edward T. and Mildred Reed Hall

(2) Mathieu Avanzi: Maître de conférences en linguistique française, Sorbonne Université – 


  • Marianne

    Everything round the “bise” : very interesting, even for some French people who also get confused, that’s so true ! 😉 But right now, no “bises” are allowed in France… Do you think it will come back, or is Covid19 the end of the “bise” ?

    • Mademoiselle Guiga

      Thanks, Marianne! I think the bise will make its come-back soon! It is well too rooted into French culture to disappear that fast… unless we are stuck with years of Pandemic… which would be a disaster…

  • Danyzen

    Hello Mademoiselle Guiga!
    I looooved this article, and had some irrepressible laughters, because it’s toujours a problème for me to do these kisses without having an accident, if you know what I mean ;-)! For history : I’m German and I live in France since 1996…
    I will start blogging soon about my life in France. Would you kindly accept that I share your article and I translate it in german ?
    Big hug from Ariège!

    • Mademoiselle Guiga

      Hello Danyzen!
      I’m happy you liked it and hopefully, it will help you avoid future kissing accidents 😉
      Sure, you can definitely translate the article in German and share also my article. I’m happy to help the German-speaking community navigating French culture too!
      Kisses starting from the right cheek 😉

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